And if she really is cheating on you, you can’t confront her empty-handed, or else she might just deny it and start cleaning up her act. Unless done in a relaxed, honest approach, it’s better to have enough specific proof before having “the talk.”
#1 She suddenly becomes dreamy.
You know what “in love” looks and feels like. It’s a kind of high that’s impossible to hide. If you notice her smiling and blushing like a teenage girl when she’s checking her phone or during random moments, it’s possible that she’s in love with someone else.
But, you know, having giddy feelings doesn’t mean she is cheating. She could be giddy for a lot of reasons. It could be that she has a harmless crush, she remembered something funny, or she’s thinking of shopping.
#2 She’s buying way too much sexy lingerie.
If she’s always been content wearing granny panties and, all of the sudden, she raids the mall for the sexiest lingerie available, you have to wonder why. Admittedly, she could just be in the mood to have a makeover.
Come on—any woman can buy sexy lingerie, just because. Just make sure she’s wearing it for you. If her intimacy level is low, but her lingerie collection is piling up, it’s not a good sign.
#3 She now enjoys her independence.
She used to be clingy with you, by bombarding you with texts all day. Many times, you felt choked by her lack of independence—but all of the sudden, she’s okay without you.
She rarely texts you and has no issues with you not texting her, either. Chances are, she’s having way too much fun without you.
#4 She won’t let you touch her phone anymore.
You used to freely use and explore each other’s phones and gadgets, simply because there was nothing to hide. You do not spy on her by reading her messages, though.
You just enjoyed tinkering with each other’s stuff. But now, her phone and gadgets are off-limits. Unless you suspect that she’s planning a surprise party for you, it’s cause for alarm.
#5 She exits when answering calls.
Why would she go to the bathroom to answer phone calls, when she used to let you hear every conversation she had?
Again, if your birthday is not around the corner, be wary.
#6 She deletes her search history.
So, you got really suspicious of all the changes you noticed with her and you now want to investigate. The first thing you probably want to check is her search history. You expect to see articles on infidelity but you’re left hanging; all you see is a blank page. She has deleted her search history.
You check again the next week, and find the same thing. Since when did this become a habit of hers? Unless she’s keeping something else from you she’s shy that she’s watching porn, she’s searching for a new job and you’re against it, etc, then it’s a sign, brother.
#7 Wandering eyes.
When you’re out in public, her eyes scan the area as if she’s looking for someone. She’s either wanting or dreading a chance encounter with her lover.
You will notice that she just isn’t as relaxed and focused as before.
#8 She mumbles when she says, “I love you.”
It doesn’t automatically mean that she’s cheating, but this could be a sign that she’s not that into you anymore, and she feels icky saying those words. It could also simply be because she’s tired of saying it every single day.
Some women get lazy, too, you know. When coupled with at least five of the signs on this list, though, it’s a sign of something else.
#9 She avoids intimacy.
Most of us get bored with sex if we’ve been with the same person for more than three years. However, if a simple touch makes her cringe or cry, or her interest in sex has completely vanished, she could be cheating, or checking out emotionally.
Either way, you need to talk.
#10 She doesn’t seem connected when you make love.
Let’s say she still “agrees” to make love to you, but you notice she’s stiff and boring as a log. She used to be very intimate, but now it’s as if she’s just doing it to avoid confrontation.
It could be her fluctuating hormones, or it could be because she’s found someone she’s more connected to.