1. Plan the date. If you are the one to plan the date than you already have points in your favor.
2. Offer to pick her up and drive but be flexible, she may want to meet you somewhere.
3. Open the door for her.
4. Pay. Pay for the taco off a taco truck, the entry ticket to somewhere fun or the ice cream. You don’t have to spend a lot. Keep the place casual and affordable (but not fast food! No McDonalds!)
5. Offer her your jacket if the night gets cool.
6. If you are doing anything active for your date like a hike or swimming, lend a hand if she seems to be struggling. Focus more on her and her enjoyment than on you showing off your skillz.
7. Be supportive of her. Don’t criticize, mock or belittle her points of view (even if you think they’re silly.)
8. Be respectful. You can flirt but do not be perverse.
9. Look her in the eyes and slip her name into sentences. This is a nice social technique that will make her feel more connected to you.
10. Turn on the charm. Be positive and lighthearted. Do not complain. Remember you’re making a first impression here.
11. Do not discuss ex-girlfriends, previous dating experiences, religion (unless it is a deal breaker) or politics.
12. Ask her questions! “What do you do?” “If money wasn’t an issue, what would you be doing tomorrow? Why?” “Do you have any hobbies?” “What do you love to do?” “Where did you grow up?” “If you could wake up anywhere in the world tomorrow where would it be? Why?”
13. Limit yourself to 4 compliments. Two for her beauty: “You look lovely tonight” or “That dress is stunning on you.” And two for her character: “You’re really funny” or “You seem like a really kind and generous person.”
14. Don’t kiss on the first date. Some guys kiss on the first date because they “feel a vibe.” Men can immediately tell if they’re attracted to a woman and with loads more testosterone than women, guys are often ready and “in the mood.”
My personal feeling about kissing on the first date is that it is weird. I would much rather get to know the man first so that the chemistry has a chance to organically develop for me as well. So since you asked ME this question, I say avoid the kiss and give her a goodnight hug.
Make it a good hug: linger, breathe, be present, squeeze. The feeling of being safe and warm in your arms will linger with her far after you leave her door.
15. Express your interest in seeing her again before the night is up. A simple, “I’d love to talk more about this sometime” or “I’d like to see you again.” And if you mean it, always end the date with “I’ll call you.”